Sunday, June 27, 2010

Post 142

Friday evening went to fetch sarah & mikkiel from school,The teacher pass me sarah's progress report and observation of sarah by her teacher..I feel like so excited getting this report ( dun know what is inside) while the teacher pass to me cos was my first time taking my children's report book lol..Once open there is some things sarah has to improved and some is average and GOOD..Keep it up my baobei...About mikkiel will have wait for end of the month when he take back the COMMUNICATION BOOK than how he behave in school..Seldom listen to his teacher feedback cos i dun bring them to school often last week cos hubby was the one who bring and send them to school..

Told mummy about the progress book i take back,Everyday we will be chatting over the phone since i start working she had been asking how is it and ....Not like someone lol only know how to say u cannot wait ar..Wait the earth going to end also will never wait till the day..
see sarah is admiring herself on her progress report
Saturday we will the same staying at home,cooking lunch and dinner for them still do what i had promised whenever they stay at home i will sure cook for them..Enjoying spending time with them,Morning let them watch their favourite BABY FIRST CHANNEL AND YOYO CHANNEL Afternoon,teaches Sarah while mikkiel is having his nap..So far she is improving and concentrate in school go through the worksheet she done at school she can say when i ask..She improving her writing and tracing and was very good..Spend 2 hours with her singing with her and do some assignment i realised she can listen to my instruction well but is two of us at home she will be showing temper when someone is at home and I going to find a way to correct her and try some methods some friend share with me but still cannot help much...
(didn't take much photo cos my hp is going crazy mode again)

Last night was laying on the bed and on the way to go to my lala land..

Recently since start to work,i sleep at 10 or the latest 11 and wake up @ around 5 to 6 plus in the morning,wake hubby up and do my housechores so i finish my work i can have less things to do..Although i only work a few hours but i am very tired after work i even fall asleep when i was in the bus ..

The happiest thing is i had bought my first insurance for my 2 precious today,thank shiyim for the recommend..I will buy one more insurance for them and the most important thing is can afford dun want to repeat the history and waste the money..

Tomorrow is monday have to start on a new weeks again..Hope will be a great and happy ones.Tomorrow bringing 2 precious to polyclinic for their injection hope they behave hubby will be coming along ask him to apply leave cos he has to sign the CPF form for the injection..

Gonna prepare my grocery list and will updated whenever i have free time..Don't miss us too much :)


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一生应该遗忘的十种人


一生应该遗忘的十种人





一、你曾经深爱的人


  当这个人成为你心底的痛的时候,你一定要忘了他。爱
一个人并不痛苦,痛苦的是爱你的人给你的伤痛。这种痛往往是刻骨铭心的,足以让你痛上一辈子,所以你要忘了他。

二、曾经深爱你的人

  他深爱你,可是你却无法回应他。因此你对他有所愧疚,午夜梦醒时看到自己身边躺着自己爱的人,想到自己的幸福,就更加觉得对不起他。他那么好,待你那么温柔,比你爱的人更疼爱你,可是你就是不爱他。没办法,谁让爱情本来就是没有道理可言的。

三、你背叛过的人

  你会怕他!他曾经那么信任你,可是你却辜负他的信任。这样的他必定是恨着你,更有可能在你不知道的地方诅咒你。也许忘记只是逃避,也许你终究要面对他,但能够忘记也是一种幸福。

四、你最恨的人

  不要去恨一个人,那是对自己的折磨。我们实在没有必要为了一个微不足道的人来折磨自己。你在恨的同时,也磨去了自己心中原有的善良和仁慈,你会觉得所有人都对不起你,你就会看不到很多美好的东西。用你的快乐去交换恨一个人的权力,不值得。

五、你爱他,他却不爱你的人

  为什么他不爱我?为什么他要选择她?为什么我那么爱他,他却从来不回应我的爱?不要再去问为什么,因为很多事情不需要理由,不爱你就是不爱你,不是你不够好,不是你比不上她,也不是他感受不到你的爱,是因为他不爱你。还是忘了他,太多的为什么只会让你变成有一个自怨自艾的女人。

六、让你恐惧过的人

  你怕他,夜深人静时,自己独处时,在陌生环境时,你就会想到他。怕他会突然出现,怕他会伤害你。你想恨他,却又不敢恨他。那就忘了他吧!无论他曾对你做过什么,都已经是过去的事情,我们不应该向过去臣服。在成长的过程中,我们至少要学着往前看,不是吗?

七、你想提出分手,却被他抢先一步的人

  遇到这种人,只有两个字:“郁闷”。你本来可以很洒脱地和他说“拜拜”。可是他却比你快了一步。即使事后你怎么补救,别人只会认为你只是在死撑。唉!这种丢脸的事情还是忘了吧!

八、你暗恋过的人

  你在远处看着他,你偷偷打探他的消息,你给予他关心。他却毫不知情,最后你还要在原地祝福他和别人要永远幸福。用这种自虐的方式蹂躏自己的感情,这样的感觉是人恐怕都不想再经历一次。

九、你们明明相爱,却不能厮守的人

  我们相爱,这是无用质疑的。可是我们却又有很多的理由不能在一起。比如我父母不喜欢你,而我是一个很孝顺的人;比如我要对另外一个人负责,因为我是一个有担当的人;比如你的个性并不适合我,将来终是要分手,倒不如现在好聚好散。太多太多的理由让我们不能在一起,因此我们只能互相忘记。

十、为了某些原因,你不得不放弃的人

  放弃的时候义无返顾,放弃过后有遗憾却不后悔。哪怕再选择一次,还是会放弃。我们即使充满了无奈和抱歉,但已经无法回头。因为我们早已决定了自己的方向,不会为了某个人还改变自己的未来。所以我们只能对他说抱歉了。

Friday, June 25, 2010

Post 141

I wish i can be everyday like that pose and smile happily...



Good morning everyone,Yippe is friday...This week was a very different week from the pass few month..I am more satisfied with my life..At least i am no longer staying at home while my 2 precious goes to school and hubby goes to work..Time of course doesn't pass fast at work but than at least i am earning some $$$$ for myself and my family..

There is some things i dun like about this job,but than bo bian i need an employment letter and fix my timing

  • Pay low
  • No benefit
  • Buy things from own company there is no staff price AND
  • No increment FOR PART TIMERS
  • No fixed date for part time' salary

But i feel glad i adapt the job ( so far so good) but than never experience so many colleagues working in a small shop a day..Have a lot of different countries colleagues that i never met before too.Work is never be easy but than is hardly to find a job for me cos of the timing i have..I cannot complain although is so long time i had not been paying so low as $4.50 per hours and what for i can ask..Where can find a sale job can dun work sat & sun & PH ..At least sales job will never have a fixed salary work harder can see more $$$ in my bank account..hahaha

Yesterday night the two tenant came out and chit chatted .. They finally alright cos last few weeks they are not talking and than a week ago two of them mention-ing that they wanted to move out and hubby ask one of the tenant instead..Thought they feel not happy with the room or we are to noisy cos sometime we have mj-session and of course our quarrel add some noise to them but than is their problem cos got some conflict between them but than finally alright saw them coming back together...So they are not moving out is very troublesome to get a new tenant and adapt them lol..Althought they came from CHINA but they are not what people say about la..

Will be clearing my debt and bills and we can save money to do something to my house..PAinting,replace some furniture and ......I mean i want to do it BY THIS YEAR of course i doesn't waste so much on our home just we feel comfortable will do...AND THAN FOLLOW by my wishlistsss ..Hope can be smoothly and happy day by day..

* Later i going to call someone up and just to make this 2 people talk back and than i just dun feel like doing it but than i have to do it because for this person.i not willingly but than just dun feel like seeing them to this stages..So than i have to lower myself how this people can get satisfied not put head up or else I will hanged up and dun even i will call u up AGAIN ok..

Wednesday, June 23, 2010

Post 140

See my bedroom wall with cracked painted i wanted to get it done by next month



Last monday was my first day starting my new job,and my dressing to work went to report to work and realise they dun give uniform to part timer..-__- luckily didn't insisted to get the uniform cos one piece of normal uniform cost $50 if damaged by bleach or stain..I love the job but than my leg was so pain cos was standing from 10am to 5 pm cos not used the standing cos i had been 3 years never been working..my first day and the very first sale : sell 3 perfumes to this sweet young lady and get back my confidence..:)



You see my toe with a red bubble and is so pain lol...but i still go work on the 2nd day was complaining to colleagues and walk like a old lady i walk damn slow on my first & second day..Everything is worth it after bringing sarah n mikkiel to school and saying byebye to me and i can happily go to work and came back to fetch them...


accompany hubby to see doctor cos he never go to work..


precious was walking toward to the stranger and talk in his language...see my 2 precious they enjoying them selves in the clinic lol


Gd night everyone...tomorrow have to work :)

Sunday, June 20, 2010

Just to share

Recently i start to be worry about mikkiel cos until now he is going to be 18 month but than he seem not speaking much although everyone is saying is alright i just to find some research and ease my worries.he can only managed to speak much start from 10 month onwards but he become more lesser in talking when he is growing day by day.Parent is not easy to be,we start to worry when kids cannot this way cannot that way but than for my views dun compare children by children,every kid has their own talent and have their own way to pick up any skills (take some times)..

SPEECH AND LANGUAGE DISORDERS IN CHILDREN

Dr Chong Shang Chee

Associate Consultant, The Children's Medical Institute, National University Hospital

Introduction

The development of speech and language is an important basis for meaningful and symbolic human communication. At the Child Development Unit, National University Hospital, speech and language disorders encompass 11.0% to 20.0% of cases referred (data from 2006 and 2007) and are among the commonest causes of referrals for evaluation and intervention. Studies have suggested that the prevalence rates of combined speech and language delay to be 5%-8% in the population,1 and untreated speech and language delay in pre-school children to be 40% to 60%.2 Language disorders are also the basis for learning difficulties and school difficulties, and is an indicator of a child's cognitive abilities. It is hence important to recognise and diagnose such disorders.

Development of speech and communication

The rate of language acquisition varies among individuals and is also affected by biological and environmental factors. Boys are more predisposed to language disorders. Brain activation appears to be lateralised to the left inferior frontal gyrus in males, but to bilateral regions in females during phonological processing tasks. This bilateral representation may account for why girls are less likely to manifest language problems.3

During the prelinguistic stage (birth to 12 months), communicative intents are non-verbal but social use of language emerges (eg. peek-a-boo game). Vocalisations begin at 3-4 months, and then babbling at 8 months evolve into use of single words at 12 months. During the early linguistic period (1 to 3 years), children use words to code what they know through concepts eg.: "more", "no". The two-word stage starts at 18 to 24 months and vocabulary expands to several hundred words. Three-to four-word stage from 24 to 36 months mark the period of expansion of vocabulary and using specific words to communicate feelings and desires. Complex language evolves at 3 to 5 years including the use of preposition, conditionals, connectors. Pre-school children should be able to tell stories, anticipate future events, and follow three-component demands. Upon school entry, language demands are extensive and applied through academic and social situations. By 7 to 8 years, the child uses language symbolically. The emergence of semantics (words and their meanings), syntax (grammar and rules), pragmatics (social language use) and metalinguistics (understanding of language) at school-going age places new demands on the child.

Warning signs of speech and language disorders which prompt referral for evaluation are as shown in Table 1.4

Medical and neurological causes of speech or language impairment

Some diagnosable medical conditions which may lead to speech or language impairment include hearing loss, genetic and chromosomal disorders (eg. Down syndrome, Fragile X, Williams syndrome), autism, seizure disorders (eg. Landau-Kleffner) and cognitive impairment. Child abuse and neglect can lead to poor quantities and qualities of child-directed verbal language in their environment. Additionally, it is important for the paediatrician to recognise that behavioural disorders can emerge in children who are language-impaired because of poor communication, frustration at work and social difficulties.

Receptive and expressive aphasia can result from damage to specific areas of the left side of the brain, which is usually the dominant hemisphere for language and communication. Receptive aphasia (Wernicke's aphasia) results from damage to the Wernicke's area (eg. stroke, tumour) This disorder causes major impairment in language comprehension and jargon or largely meaningless speech. Expressive aphasia (Broca's aphasia) involves damage to the Broca's area, and sufferers find it difficult to initiate speech. Their speech is usually non-fluent and halting, and reduced to disjointed words. Though these are the major areas involved in speech and language, separate brain areas are involved in subtasks of hearing words (receptive language), seeing words (reading), speaking words (expressive language) and generating words (metalinguistic skills). What remains undetermined is how some people may move effortlessly from speaking, writing and listening—closely related skills represented by separate brain areas, while some do not and may need discrete exercises to promote each component skill.5

Table 1: Warning signs of Speech or Language Disorders4

Age Range Signs
First 12 months Does not smile at familiar faces or voices by 2 months
Does not imitate any sounds by 4 months
Does not babble by 8 monthsNo ability or interest in games eg. "peek-a-boo" by 8 months
No single words by 12 months
Does not use any gestures eg. "bye-bye" or shaking head by 12 months
Does not point to objects or pictures by 12 months
12-24 months Does not use at least 15 words by 18 months
Prefers gestures instead of vocalising words or needs by 18 months
Sequences of sounds in familiar words are unclear and not understood by 2 years
No two-word utterances by 2 years
Does not imitate words or actions by 2 years
Does not follow simple instructions by 2 years
24-36 months Does not combine words into short phrases or sentences by 3 years
Does not initiate any interactions with others by 3 years
Not able to use the sounds /p, h, m, n, t, d, k, g/ correctly before 3 years
Restricted or repetitive play with toysUnable to understand and answer simple questions
Frustration in communicative situations
4 years Unable to be understood by people outside of family
Cannot retell simple stories or recall recent events clearly
Sentences are disorganised with a lot of errors
Sentences contain many sound errors eg. substitution or deletions

Auditory processing disorders encompass a group of disorders where there are deficits in the processing of verbal and non-verbal acoustic stimuli. Children with such disorders may present with difficulties with oral instruction, rapid speech, in background noise, and with language, reading and spelling disorders. The auditory system and pathways including peripheral and central nervous systems may be involved. The human auditory system is fully developed at birth, though myelination continues until 10-12 years. This myelination is sound dependant and may vary in individuals. Central auditory tests are hence maturationally-dependant and improve with age.

Unknown causes of delays in speech and language

In most cases of speech and language delay, no organic or medical cause is found. In one study, it was found that half of children with language delay at 2 years will eventually function normally at 3 to 4 years, though in the other half the delays persisted.6 Currently, more research needs to be done on predictors and risk factors for long-standing communication difficulties. Children with persistent language problems at school entry which limit age-appropriate learning, communication and social abilities are classified to have a language disorder. Some children whose early delays in speech and language apparently resolve during the pre-school years demonstrate reading disorders in later years, implying the presence of a subtle but underlying fundamental disorder.7 Speech sound disorders have also been associated with reading disability.8

Bilingualism and speech and language delay?

Generally, being raised in bilingual environments does not slow the process of language learning. Studies have shown that the bilingual children have similar combined vocabularies if two languages are assessed, when compared to monolingual children. 9,10 Other research have also found that monolingual and bilingual children achieve their linguistic milestones in each of their languages at the same time.10 It is hence untrue that exposing a child to two languages may confuse the child and interrupt normal language development. Conversely, other studies in the US involving language minority children who speak Spanish reveal that decoding, word identification and spelling skills of bilingual children are similar to monolingual children. However, reading comprehension and writing skills may lag behind monolingual peers.11 Though there are many controversies surrounding this "bilingual paradox", it is currently believed that bilingual education has cognitive advantages, and these include cognitive flexibility, divergent thinking, and general reasoning and verbal abilities.12,13

Bilingual children, when acquiring both languages in early development, may perform code switching (switching back and forth between both languages). This is a natural developmental process and should not be perceived as manifesting language delay. Code switching can in fact represent bilingual proficiency as a reflection of the child's language use in different contexts.9 Children from bilingual families may however show uneven skills in the two languages, depending on the amount of exposure. They are also capable of being proficient in both. Therefore, children from bilingual families with speech and language delay should be evaluated appropriately, and their delays not attributed to bilingualism. There is currently no evidence that children with language delays should only learn one language. However, children with language difficulties which are significant can be exempted from written examinations involving a second language, but continue to learn and use the oral form of second language in their native environments.

Disorders of articulation and phonology

Articulation disorders involve inability to produce sounds correctly in words or speech. The child is unable to produce the speech sounds correctly in all contexts. Though most cases have unknown causes, it is believed that this disorder is the result of mistaken learning and oromotor deficits.

Phonological deficits involve not being able to sound words based on patterns or implicit rules, but the child produces sounds correctly in some contexts but not others. Many of these children have concurrent deficits in receptive and expressive language skills. They are at high risks of reading and spelling difficulties. Children with cleft palates and velopharyngeal insufficiency are also at high risks of phonological disorders.14

Development verbal apraxia (Speech dyspraxia)

Children with speech dyspraxia have difficulties with controlled production of speech sounds, or motor speech planning or programming. There is discrepancy between receptive and expressive abilities. They demonstrate great difficulties with speech imitation, and are inconsistent with vowel and consonant production across a variety of situations. They also have unusual intonation, pausing and stress patterns of speech. Commonly, they have associated cognitive, behavioural and motor abnormalities. In recent years, several cases of developmental verbal apraxia in humans have been linked to mutations in the FOXP2 gene.15 Further work has revealed that the gene not only affects motor control but also other areas of linguistic processing including grammar, comprehension, receptive and expressive language.16

Disorders of fluency

Stuttering is the commonest form of dysfluency in speech, and affects boys to girls in the ratio 4:1. Children of ages 2.5 to 4 can have dyscoordination of thought and language affecting fluency of speech. Eighty-five percent of cases start in pre-school years. Stuttering involves inappropriate pauses, sound prolongation and repetition. Though mild dysfluency is acceptable developmentally, danger signs include repetitive facial expressions and other motor mannerisms (eg. Eye blinking, jaw jerking), social avoidance behaviours, and frequent repetitions or prolongation that interferes with speech intelligibility. The prognosis for most young children is good, and spontaneous recovery varies from 40 to 80%. However, in a child who is older than 6 years of age, spontaneous recovery is less likely.17 It is also associated with anxiety, though it is often unknown if anxiety is the cause or effect. Interventions include encouraging patients to talk slowly, fluency-shaping mechanisms eg. delayed auditory feedback devices to slow the speech rate, providing pauses for children to communicate, and active listening which involves removing pressure when the child tries to formulate thoughts.

Language Disorders

Language acquisition and development involve complex components of semantics, pragmatics, syntax, morphology, discourse, pragmatics and metalinguistic awareness.18 Some symptoms and signs of language dysfunction in school children include:

  • Not able to follow instructions of need for repeated instructions

  • Difficulties with concentrating in verbal settings (eg. classroom instruction) but not other settings (music, art, sport)
  • Verbal hesitance or lack of verbal participation

  • Expressive repetition or lack of cohesion in speech

  • Word finding difficulties and excessive use of pause words

  • Difficulties with word problems in Math but not arithmetic

  • Poor written expression

  • Poor comprehension despite good sight vocabulary.

Parental interviews, school reports and examples of school work are useful in aiding the diagnosis. Though each symptom may indicate other developmental disorders, a large number of symptoms increases the likelihood of a language disorder.

In specific language impairment, a child demonstrates discrepancies between cognitive function (Performance IQ) and language function (Verbal IQ). These children have unexplained difficulties with acquiring and learning language, but are otherwise cognitively normal. There appears to be a genetic basis for this disorder.19 Speech out put is poorly articulated and comprehension is poor. These children show problems with non-word repetition, acoustic processing, and grammatical problems.

Screening and Evaluation of Language Disorders

Currently, screening for speech delay occurs as part of a child's visit for well-baby checks or for routine immunisation. It is not known how consistently primary care physicians screen for speech or language delay when a child presents with other medical problems. One study has shown that 43% of parents report that their children aged 10-35 months did not receive any form of developmental assessment at well-child visits, and 30% of physicians had not discussed how the child communicates.20 Language issues are otherwise usually detected when a parent presents to the medical caregiver raising concerns, or when a child attends pre-school or primary school. In view that language intervention is most useful when started early, the benefits of early detection are evident.

A systematic review of screening for speech and language in pre-school children in US sought to evaluate the benefits and effectiveness of routine screening in primary care settings.21 Identified risk factors from studies for selective screening programmes consistently included the following -- a family history of speech and language delay, male gender, and perinatal factors (prematurity, low birth weight, sucking habits) Other risk factors included educational levels of parents, childhood illnesses, birth order and family size.

Studies which evaluated screening instruments which took less than 10 minutes to administer had a wide range of sensitivity (17-100%) and specificity (45-100%). Most of the instruments were, however, not designed for screening in primary care settings. There is currently no gold standard screening tool used and evaluated in different populations. What remains unanswered are the optimal intervals for screening and the adverse effects of screening (eg. anxiety, unnecessary therapy).

In Singapore, there are currently no standardised screening tools used routinely for speech disorders in young children in pre-school settings. Pre-school readiness assessments which include language evaluation items are currently adopted in some schools and centres. It is currently unknown the prevalence of such disorders nationwide and if we are successful in detecting these cases early.

Therapy for speech and language disorders

Therapy for speech and language disorders usually involves a "child-centred, child-initiated and child-directed approach". A language programme is only useful if incorporated into a language-facilitated environment, involving teachers, parents and therapists.

Intervention has been found to be largely effective in many studies. Most studies demonstrated improvements in articulation, phonology, expressive and receptive language, and syntax. Some studies also revealed improvements in social outcomes and self-esteem. In a Cochrane study evaluating language therapy interventions, it was found that language therapy was least effective for receptive deficits. Interventions involving clinician versus trained parents revealed no differences in outcomes. There was apparently no difference between group and individual therapy approaches.22 In terms of economic models, another study supported indirect group therapy as the most cost-effective form of language intervention.23 Interventions however varied widely and may not be generalised for all populations (eg. home based, centre based or school programmes). Characteristics of children who may best benefit from the different approaches needs to be evaluated, and a refined model suitable for curriculum needs to be planned.

How parents can help in language development

Parental and caregiver involvement is important in reinforcement of language development in a child. Studies have demonstrated that parental input is positively correlated with rates of language development. The Hanen programme is an example of a parent training programme that develops a child's conversational strategies through maximising language learning opportunities in everyday situations.24 Simple steps to promoting language development in children also include

  • Listening attentively to the child

  • Talking with child and expanding on child's speech topics

  • Being a good model ie. Avoid talking down or using baby talk

  • Talking about what one is doing in everyday situations

  • Encouraging a child to ask questions

  • Reading to the child 25

A child with speech or language difficulties should never be coerced to speak or shamed for not speaking properly.

Conclusions

Speech and language disorders form a significant proportion of cases seen for evaluation and therapy in the tertiary setting. Such cases may represent only a proportion of more significant numbers among school-going children. Screening awareness among parents, teachers and doctors may need to be increased, and cost-effective programmes may need to be refined to suit the educational and therapeutic needs of such children in our population.

Post 139

Firstly i here to wish my dearest & hubby
a
"Happy father day "
and father in the w
hole world..

Yesterday the whole morning is playing and accompany them watching tv and read some children book...I was quite tired but than after 2 precious is taking their nap i spent some time myself doing on-line-ing again..Recently i only sleep about 4-5 hours per day but than once in a while i'm alright somemore Now is WORLDCUP season..

In the evening time i take about 15-20 min nap and feed my 2 precious dinner and prepare to go Siuling birthday celebration @ Chevron...Was doing some clothes testing for sarah and feel that the jumper is more suitable for her...**While i help mikkiel clean up and wear the clothes and put into playpen for about 5 mins and he dozes off to sleep so i cannot manage to take any photo of him yesterday..But he is wearing a jumper too and look cute on him too..




Advanced Happy Birthday to Siuling


The Birthday Girl ( finally found a photo of mikkiel )

3 of us was behind at first cos Anqi went over to take picture of the cake,very unique and help sarah n mikkiel to take the cake..As for me when i go out i just forget about taking pictures lol...I was busying looking after 2 precious and with Anqi and Soo meng help and catch up with them too...After that we went infront to sing birthday song to Siuling and continue siting while feeding 2 precious with cake and again chit chatting..

Last but not least,see everyone is doing great i feel happy for them...

I really enjoy the day catching up with the ex colleagues cum friend from quickly and of course Anqi and Soomeng..Yongfeng and Siuling i think it had been 9 years plus never meet them in real life...Our ex boss Chris also went and chatted for awhile and he went back home with his family..(Was my first time going to Chevron lol i was like a mountain tortoise can)

***The photo i uploaded is all copy from fb not taken from me i take abit from Anqi and Siuling account haha


Mikkiel was so good let Anqi take photo lol and he was very quiet yesterday ...
Very clear right..

My sistas Anqi & sarah..Thank to those visitor who came over my blog to read and those who help me click on my ads...Thanks a million..Will try to improve my English and share more good things over here..:)
help me to click on my ads if happen pass by or read my blog..Some friends feedback i am too nagging i will try to summarize and cut short ok..I will try :)

Friday, June 18, 2010

Post 138

Enjoy themselves in a corner of the clinic
my precious with her stylo hair
DADDY AND SON(the reaction of them was so funny )



Yesterday night brought 2 precious to Jurong west st 91 Apex clinic cos 2 of them is down with cough and flu and mikkiel was having eye infection...They were playing in a corner in the clinic while waiting for their turn cos i dun want them to play with other kids cos i dun want them to spread their sick to other...Came back from clinic and feed them with medicine and they off to their lala land..Mikkiel was on and off wake up while Delphine came and introduce a friend of her (Cheryl) we will chatting and eating and smoking from 11plus til morning 6 plus...We call "market" session of course we are not talking about the market price la we not so AUNTIE can...Hope another session will not miss anyone and we can li li la la from night till early in the morning...

Today their cough getting better since they have eating two doses of medicine..Today no school for them cos school is close for cleaning up..We have a great time today cos we will playing and watch cartoon together i feel like a small kids but i know 3 of us enjoy...

Recently i had been watching some of the WORLD CUP MATCH DUE TO SOME MATCH REALLY MAKE ME FEEL VERY DISAPPOINTED haiz the most memories ones was SPAIN vs SWITZERLAND...no matter ball is round and hope everyone can win some $$$$$ by betting with SINGAPORE POOLS...I will be betting only the FINAL MATCH...Brazil GOGOGOGOGOGOGOGOGO..

Wednesday, June 16, 2010

Post 137

(Tuesday 08062010)


Crystal playing para x2
see she is so enjoying she is smiling when she play...
my favourite song ...
the best score i get i keep saying i want a 'A" but than i think i have to play more often in order to get a "A" back..Practice make perfect :)



Wednesday (07082010)
Guess who is this cute baby, Marry's precious marcus



TRIM my hair and the fringe (marry and the hair stylist wanted me to cut cos they say i look good in BANGS lol)...
my nail was half done -____-zzzzz



Finally i have time to updated i realised i had been going out with my khakis this few weeks ever since sarah & mikkiel going to cc..Seriously i feel so shiok going window gaigai & and have lunchie with friends...Had been trying for some interview last few weeks too,the job i apply and went for interview ,they wanted to employ me after the interview but than i had to reject them cos the working hours was quite long and i can't even fetch my children at home...

Discuss with hubby and he say he doesn't want me to go work for long hours even night shift cos i have to look after my children when they are back from school and weekends too...It will be very tired for me and than the most important things is I will be very impatience and get angry easily...

Yesterday was a very shiok day to me..Went out with crystal after bring sarah & mikkiel to school in the afternoon..We went to arcade cos i had been telling Crystal i craving of playing para para machine so we went over and take turn to play and wow i think i shed some of my fat ..So happy cos ever since the last time i play was when i was pregnant and hubby accompany me it been 2 years plus had not been stepping inside the arcade..After that we went to blsc and went singing for almost 2 hours...I feel so enjoy and shiok done 2 things i love in one day.I feel so 满足满足满足 until i never take any photo in the room really worth it $8 for 2 hours."Happy birthday to Crystal, precious Shermie"

Today morning ,as usual brought sarah n mikkiel to school and went over to marry's house sit for awhile and we take bus over to jurong west and marry brought me to the salon she usually goes..We spent about 2 hours inside the salon..I had done my pedi&medi and trim my hair i feel so comfortable with the price and the service and the salon is 4 service in a salon...Hair,nail,massage,facial so those who like to do everything in a day actually i can suggest to this type of salon and i really love the price when i went over to the cashier to make payment..I pay $ 27.40 for 2 service.After trimming my hair i feel so light cos of my fizzy hair..Thank marry to recommended me and i had save $$$$ on my hair and this is my 1234 time doing my nail.Sure will go back to the salon but i will put down the salon name when i go over for my nail..I will share with everyone the salon name it have 18 branches in singapore and the hair cut is only $3.80..

女人应该偶儿宠一宠自己
am i right...

Going for a interview ," Part time customer service"....Wish me good luck (",)


Monday, June 14, 2010

I am sharing this post i found is meaningful hope u too..


Life Lesson

Dear beloved son/daughter,

Here are 10 of life's lessons I would like to impart to you.

Lesson 1
Nothing in life is for free. You have to work hard in everything you do. Although you'll have a natural aura of favour on your life, that doesn't mean you should be cruising through life. You owe it to yourself to live it to your fullest potential.

Lesson 2
Respect yourself. Never let other people talk you down. You should know that you're a beautiful being and that we love you very much. Furthermore, respect for others start with respecting yourself. Just like loving others starts with loving yourself. Respecting yourself means you won't be ripped off because you won't allow others to take advantage of you.

Lesson 3
Respect others. We're all human. We should not take advantage of people's weakness. We should not judge based on the colour of one's skin, or looks, or job, or background or religion. Everyone deserves to be viewed with equal standing.

Lesson 4
Honour thy father and mother. It'll get increasingly difficult to do that as you get older but do remember that your parents have lived longer than you and have many invaluable experiences that makes them much wiser than you. When we say no, it's because we love you.

Lesson 5
Be kind to animals. This I trust that you will because you've grown up with the most loveable animal on earth: Fudgie. Through Fudgie, you've learnt that animals feel pain, love, hunger and are innocent in every way, and add immeasurable joy and love to your life.

Lesson 6
Follow your heart and reach for the stars. You might never get there but you'll get a lot further than if you don't even try.

Lesson 7
Love your planet. We don't own the planet, we only safeguard it for our children. And our children for their children. This is something that we in this day and age are acutely aware of, with dwindling resources, melting ice caps, and other globalwarming catastrophes threatening the comfortable lives that a lot of us live. Unfortunately, this comfort that we enjoy has come at a great cost to our planet. Therefore, changing our ways and learning to live in harmony with our planet, while critically important for us, will be even more so for you.

Lesson 8
Love like you've never been hurt. Heartbreak in one's life is a given and while love can be painful, it is also the greatest gift that any of us can receive. Tarnishing that gift with doubt or apprehension means that you will never truly feel the unique joy and satisfaction that true love gives. Hopefully, the love between your father and I has taught you that love truly is the foundation of family and companionship.

Lesson 9
When your mother says, you just wait till your father comes home, be afraid. Be very afraid.

Lesson 10
Always question. We should always strive for truth. And one never gets the truth by just accepting what others tell you. The only way you'll find the truth is by questioning, by interrogating contradictory views and by learning from difference opinions.

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It had been nearly a week plus never touch my computer liao cos i just recoverd with my eye infection not long ago and hubby is always using the computer to check his World cup result and watch the soccer match on the computer so i will watch the drama and variety show @ mob tv...I cannot always occupied the computer myself have to let hubby use too..-___-

Tuesday morning wake up and open my eye was feeling heavy and went to see myself in the mirror..My eye look so small and i called myself mizzy JAY CHOU can i even can joke with my mummy on the phone when i was so pain and tear keep coming out from my eye.Find that sarah and mikkiel corner of their eye also get affect so bring them to see doctor ..The doctor had given them 2 bottle of eye drop and the doctor remind me that "EYE DROP CANNOT BE SHARE IF MIGHT SPREAD AND GET EVEN MORE SERIOUS IF BOTH OF THEM USE THE SAME BOTTLE OF EYE DROP and their eyes is not that serious just play safe and help them apply the eye drops and brought them to school...I have no choice cos my eye was very very very serious if they stay with me their eye might get more affected...Clean my eye with water and blood stain on the cotton pad and I still very stubborn didn't even go see doctor than realise eye is getting more pain and no choice go to NUH A&E to see doctor at night..They give me a referral letter to go Eye clinic tomorrow..

(Tuesday clean my eye with cotton and come out blood and the yellow thingy thing..)

(The medicine given by the eye clinic doctor @ NUH)

Wednesday morning,prepared myself and cabbed down to NUH eye clinic and i was with my sunglasses..Reached at around 12 plus and register and wait for my turn..Seriously there is alot patient waiting too.The nurse test my eye vision and than one words also cannot see cos is very BLUR and i doubt my eye is getting serious lol...Waited for 1 hours plus and manage to see the Doctor and when i take off my sunglasses and than the doctor check my eye and than ask me to put my head on that irritated stand so he check my eye with the light..He even need to use his finger to open my eye and than he went off and take that instrument and scrub my eye ball and there lot of blood and yellowish thingy and of course pain but vision getting better...The doctor say that ," it may takes a week to recover and ask me do i need a mc." Off i go and take medicine.. I wait 45mins to take the medicine and eye was damn pain and swollen i can feel that cos i feel my eye was burning...Only managed to take one type of medicine cos the other eye drop had NO STOCK lol..No choice had to take cabbed home again..Rest and take a nap,finally my eye can slightly open abit bigger after seeing a doctor and apply the medicine and my eye feel more better after that but still swollen but my eye is not as red as tuesday..(below is the photo i can managed to take )


My eye is still swollen but not red as the doctor help me to the dig out the blood and my eye is more cleaner than tuesday...(My eye was stick together cos the yellow thingy dun know what it called) My eye can't even see clearing when i open my com and i can't see the monitor eye very pain so i gave up and go watch tv with my JAY CHOU eye and sleep rather early on last week..Finally my eye had recovered on friday and learn a very value lesson must really take care my eye very careful cos i nearly blinded of the sore eyes turn to EYE INFECTION) not exaggerating u will never knew it once u get it yourself..


Thursday,hubby never work OT so we bring sarah and mikkiel to the foodcourt near their school and have our dinner see sarah so concentrated on her food and mikkiel was watching the channel 8 drama while i was feeding him..Bring them to the nearby hair salon to trim sarah & mikkiel &hubby hair..No much different for mikkiel and hubby but than sarah has a very different hair style from the past...I tell the auntie that i want so layer for sarah and maintain her hair length but than when she finish her hair realise that her hair is damn short lol totally like a boy lol..So i tell hubby i got two son at the moment and when sarah hair getting longer than i will have 1 daughter and 1 son lol..Hubby say sarah hair will be very nice after her hair start to get longer ..i also agree with him la..


Tada.....Below photo is sarah new hairstyle lol....Look like boy boy right exactly like hubby small time..I ask sarah ,'Do u like ur hair (chinese) she say 喜欢sarah的头发 and give me a sweet smile...(",)

I even ask her: sarah are u a boy or a girl and she answer,i 'm a boy didi is a girl and i laugh out very LOUD and than corect her NO,u are a girl didi is a boy...I see her reaction i feel like laughing lol ..





Sarah loves to take photo now but than mikkiel doesn't want to let me take photo lol never have a proper photo of him recently but than will try to make him focus on my camera...I also realised had not been taking photo ever since my eye having infection..tada======> Is me while waiting for the commercial finish and start my show ,realised my eye bag is getting thicker and darker lol cos i see a few photo i take on that day have to find some solution to get rid off them...

Saturday, June 5, 2010

My first day of work






Today was my first day of work,wake in the morning 7am and 2 precious had areadi wake up and mummy is complaining she is having headache..So i made milk for them and bath them so mummy will not be doing so much things and she can rest while putting in the playpen and sarah playing herself with toys...Mummy brought me nasi lemak for breakfast ..I still worry whether she is alright to look after 2 precious she reply,"faster go to work is going to rain soon" so i faster done my make-up and say byebye with 2 precious sarah reply and give me a flying kisses and mikkiel start to cry and mummy start to crying him can't bear to leave them to work..Leave the house @ 9 15 am but than i reach City hall @ 10.00.Meeting for my colleagues to arrive.Waited for weiling arrival and goes to our workplace together..

I learn alot of new things today ,i dun know can i continue to work at the place cos noone can help me look after the kids on weekends and just no had inform the boss i cannot work anymore,but than he was very angry when he speak but than i have no choice to tell him my reason but thank him for being so understanding after saying me irresponsible cos my friend patricia telling him how hardworking and how nice i am but i promise to go back on weekdays but hope i will not get patricia into trouble cos i think i will be giving them out of sudden things cos who knows what will happen next...Today mummy's headache is getting worse so i ask daddy to fetch us home today so mummy can sleep more well and hope she can get well soon.Will be seeing how it goes,hope it will be smoothly goes like a sail...Gtg my eye is tired and my leg is tired too...Gd night

Thursday, June 3, 2010

MAN STOP USING VIOLENCE TO WOMAN..

Signs to Look for in an Abusive Personality

Many women are interested in knowing ways that they can predict whether someone may be physically abusive. Below are a list of behaviors that are seen in people who beat their partners; the last four signs on the list are almost always seen only if the person is a batterer. In some cases, a batterer may have only a couple of behaviors that the woman can recognize, but they are very exaggerated (ie. extreme jealousy over ridiculous things). Initially the batterer will try to explain unacceptable behavior as signs of love and concern, and a woman may be flattered at first; but as time goes on, the behaviors become more severe and serve to dominate.



1.Jealousy: At the beginning of a relationship, an abuser will always say that jealousy is a sign of love: jealousy has nothing to do with love, it is a sign of insecurity and possessiveness. The abuser will question her about who she talks to, accuse her of flirting, or be jealous of time she spends with family, friends, or children. As the jealousy progresses, the abuser may call her repeatedly at work (or home) or drop by unexpectedly. The abuser may refuse to let her work for fear she will meet someone else, or exhibit other strange behaviors (like checking her car mileage or asking friends to watch her).
2.Controlling Behavior: At first the batterer will say that this behavior is because of concern for the woman's safety, her need to use her time well, or her need to make good decisions. The abuser will be angry if the woman is "late" coming back from the store or an appointment, or will question her closely about where she went, and who she talked to. As this behavior gets worse, the abuser may not let the women make personal decisions about the house, her clothing or going to church, may keep all the money or even require she ask permission to leave the house or room.
3. Quick Involvement: Many battered women dated or knew their abuser for less than six months before they were engaged or living together. The abuser comes on like a whirlwind, "you are the only person I could ever talk to, I have never felt loved like this by anyone." The abuser's need is desperate and will pressure the woman to commit to the relationship.
4.Unrealistic Expectations: The abuser becomes dependent on the woman for all needs. He expects her to be the perfect wife, mother, lover, and friend. The abuser will say things like "If you love me, I am all you need, you are all I need." The woman is automatically expected to know each emotional and physical need of the abuser.
5.Isolation: The abuser attempts to isolate the woman from all personal and social resources. If she has men friends, she is a "whore"; if she has women friends, she is a lesbian; if she is close to family, she is tied to apron strings. The abuser claims that people who are supportive of her are troublemakers and may want to live in the country without a phone, or may not let her use the car, or try to keep her from working or going to school.
6.Blames Others for Problems: If the abuser is chronically unemployed, it is always someone else's fault. The abuser may make mistakes and then blame the woman for being distracting or upsetting. The woman may be blamed for anything that goes wrong.
7.Blames Others for own Feelings: The abuser will tell the woman "you make me mad," "you're hurting me by not doing what I ask," "I can't help being angry." The abuser will use feelings to manipulate the woman. Harder to recognize are claims such as "you make me happy". The message in each case is "you control how I feel".
8.Hypersensitivity: The abuser is easily insulted and claims that feelings are "hurt" when actually s/he's really angry, or the abuser interprets the slightest setbacks as personal attacks. The abuser will "rant and rave" about the injustice of things that have happened - things that are really just part of living like being asked to work overtime, getting a traffic ticket, being told that something he does is annoying, being asked to help with chores.
9.Cruelty to Animals or Children: The batterer may punish animals brutally or be insensitive to their pain; or may expect children to be capable of doing things far beyond their ability (whips a two year old for wetting their diaper) or may tease young children until they cry. (60% of men who beat their partners, also beat their children). The abuser may refuse to interact with the children by not allowing them to eat at the table or expecting them to stay in their rooms in the evenings.
10."Playful" Use of Force in Sex : The abuser may like to throw the woman down and hold her during sex, or may want to act out fantasies during sex where the woman is helpless. The idea of rape may excite the abuser. The abuser may show little concern about whether the woman wants to have sex and use sulking or anger to manipulate her into compliance. The abuser may start having sex with the woman while she is sleeping, or demand sex when she is ill or tired.
11.Verbal Abuse: In addition to saying things that are meant to be cruel and hurtful, the abuser may verbally degrade the woman by cursing her or diminishing her accomplishments. The abuser may tell her that she's stupid and unable to function on her own. This may involve waking her up to verbally abuse her or not letting her sleep.
12.Rigid Sex Roles: The batterer expects a woman to serve him; and may require that she stay at home, that she obey in all things - even things that are criminal in nature. The abuser sees women as inferior, and unable to be a whole person without a relationship.
13. Dr. Jeckyll and Mr. Hyde: Many women are confused by their abuser's sudden change in mood -- they will describe the abuser's behavior as "nice" one minute, but the next minute "explosive" or "crazy". Explosiveness and mood swings are typical of batterers and are related to other characteristics such as hypersensitivity.
14.Past Battering: The batterer may admit to hitting previous partners, but will blame their partner for provoking the attacks. The woman may hear from relatives or ex-spouses of previous abuse. The fact is, a batterer will beat any partner: situational circumstances do not make a person abusive.
15. Threats of Violence: This would include any threat of physical force meant to control the woman. "I'll slap your mouth off," "I'll kill you," "I'll break your neck." Most intimate partners do not threaten their mates, but a batterer will try to excuse this behavior by saying "everybody talks like that".
16. Breaking or Striking Objects: This behavior is used as punishment (breaking loved possessions), but is mostly used to terrorize the woman into submission. The abuser may beat on tables with fists, throw objects around or near the woman. Again, this is remarkable behavior in that only immature people beat on objects in the presence of other people in order to threaten them.
17. Any Force During an Argument : This may involve a batterer holding a woman down, physically restraining her from leaving the room, or pushing or shoving. (The abuser may hold the woman against a wall and say "you're going to listen to me".